Funeral Etiquettes you should remember August 24, 2018

In Australia, attending a funeral involves specific etiquette, primarily centered around showing respect for the deceased and their family. Key aspects include appropriate attire, arriving on time, and being mindful of your behaviour during the service. Generally, dark or muted colours like black, navy, or grey are preferred for clothing, though some families may request specific attire. Being punctual, turning off your phone, and offering condolences are also important.

Here’s a more detailed look at Australian funeral etiquette:

Dress Code:

• Traditional: Black is the most common colour choice, but other dark or muted colours like navy, grey, or charcoal are also acceptable.
• Be Mindful: Some families may request a specific dress code (e.g., bright colours to celebrate the deceased’s life), so check for any specific instructions from the family.
• Conservative: Avoid overly casual or revealing clothing.
• Grooming: Ensure your clothes are clean, ironed, and you are well-groomed.

Behaviour and Conduct:

• Punctuality: Arrive on time to avoid disrupting the service.
• Silence: Turn off or silence your phone and avoid using it during the service.
• Respectful Silence: Maintain a respectful silence during the service, refraining from loud conversations or distractions.
• Offer Condolences: Offer a simple expression of sympathy to the family, such as “I’m sorry for your loss” or “My condolences”.
• Follow Directions: Listen to the directions of the celebrant or funeral director.
• Personal Space: Be mindful of the grieving family’s need for space and privacy.
• Limit Conversation: Avoid loud conversations during the service and be respectful of others’ space.
• No Photos: Avoid taking photos during the service unless specifically invited to do so by the family.

Other Considerations:

• Gifts: While flowers are a traditional gesture, it’s often best to have them delivered to the family’s home rather than bringing them to the service. Donations to a charity in the deceased’s name are also an option.

• Children: Children are generally welcome at funerals, but if they become restless have someone organised to tend to your children (or take them outside the church) to avoid disrupting the service.

• Wake: A wake may follow the funeral service, providing an opportunity for friends and family to gather, share memories, and offer support.

• Staying Late: If you are close to the family, you may stay longer at the wake, but it’s also appropriate to leave after a reasonable amount of time.

By following these guidelines, you can show your respect and support for the grieving family while honouring the memory of the deceased.